Is there anyone out there who desperately wants to live a life characterized as “of moderate or low quality?”
Good. What you just read was Merriam-Webster’s definition of “mediocrity” and unless you’re just a glutton for punishment, there’s no reasonable reason why you would want a life like that for yourself.
The good news is that we all agree on this.
The bad news is that “not wanting” a mediocre life and “not living” a mediocre life are two entirely different things. Let’s be real, no one here needs to be convinced that choosing to live a mediocre life is a terrible idea.
But that’s what so many people do.
You see, if mediocrity were an illness, what would you guess is its cause? Lack of determination? Lack of opportunity? Lack of education? Nope, nope and nope. Those are all symptoms. If you trace mediocrity’s root cause, you’ll find that it always starts at the exact same place: choice.
Indeed, if a person is not where they want to be, the problem is their choices. And a person’s current circumstances are the symptoms of those choices.
People choose mediocrity in many aspects of their lives on a daily basis. They accept jobs they hate, deal with people that they don’t like and they struggle financially. So, why do people choose to do this instead of having a better life?
It’s because choosing mediocrity isn’t one choice. It’s hundreds of choices. And when you string a lot of choices together, they create you who are – your lifestyle. And we know this about lifestyle choices – they can make you a millionaire or make you miserable.
I’m going to say something a little controversial here – as technology has evolved, it seems that overall levels of patience and determination have been dwindling. As a society, fortitude is on the decline and unfortunately people are making the mistake of just choosing the first option presented to them. For example, some people are tired of dating or being alone, so they choose the first person that says the right thing or looks a certain way. Some people lose patience with saving and investing and they choose to just give up and start blowing their money. You only live once is their battle cry.
But know this, it takes time, effort and patience to find the right person. It takes time, effort and patience to build wealth. Things worth having take a lot of time and effort. And at that intersection of time, effort and patience and a life a mediocrity is choice.
One of the main reasons people choose mediocrity is because they are terrified of change, failure and of taking risks. This is one of the main reasons why people settle in life. It’s not about them having unrealistic goals or perfection. It is about choosing to drift and complain rather than change the things they can to be happy.
I’ll say this about mediocrity, it’s seductive. It is far easier to settle than it is to leave the comfort zone. It’s far easier to create endless excuses to justify complacency and bad choices. But all of that will result in a person looking back with regret and wishing they had chosen differently.
Wherever you are reading this – at work, at home, or on a plane, you’ve chosen to read it. I didn’t force you to read this newsletter. You chose to. Yes, you are exactly where you decide to be. So, if you are unhappy with…
Your job. Choose to learn new skills that will empower you to leave for a better job.
Your finances. Choose to stop being vague about money and learn how to build wealth so that you can be financially free.
Your health. Choose to start eating better and exercise daily so that you feel good about yourself and have energy.
Living an epic life, a life that you’re proud to use as an example for our loved ones, and a life that maximizes your potential on this earth, will never happen by consistently choosing the mediocre road.
Don’t believe me?
Ask a person who made the agonizing decision to permanently walk away from a toxic relationship with a family member.
Ask a single, working mom who found the time to accomplish her lifelong dream of getting a college degree while raising two little boys so that she could have a better life.
Ask a person who worked themselves out of abject poverty and transcended their humble beginnings to become wealthy.
One thing that you’ll never hear any of them say was that it was “easy”, that they choose the mediocre path.
If these things were easy, everyone would be doing them. But they’re not easy, and not everyone is doing them because they’re hard as hell. In some cases, these things might be the hardest things that you’ll ever do in your life.
There’s a big difference between wanting to be wealthy and choosing to be wealthy. You can choose to live your life with a purpose or choose to live your life just as it comes. You can choose to embrace what I’ve written or choose not to, just know this – choice is the most powerful force you have in your life.
People do choose to be mediocre. They make mediocre decisions that weave together a fabric of mediocrity. Life is way too short to settle for anything less than what we truly want. The only way to embrace your potential is to stop settling. If you are dissatisfied with life, your choices take full responsibility. Blame yourself and your choices and start choosing differently. Yes, you are and will be, as you have chosen.
Be free. Nothing else is worth it.
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